Emotional Awareness: Overcoming the Obstacles to Psychological Balance by Dalai Lama & Paul Ekman

Author:Dalai Lama & Paul Ekman
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub
Tags: Body, Psychology, Spirituality, Emotions, General, Religion, Buddhism, Mind & Spirit
ISBN: 9780805090215
Publisher: Holt Paperbacks
Published: 2009-03-30T00:00:00+00:00

THE RELATIVES OF ANGER

EKMAN: Let me talk about a relative of anger that I do not think is part of anger itself—resentment. Resentment is focused on a specific unjust or unfair act by a specific person. It can be harbored for a long time. You can be resentful for months or years, which does not mean that you always feel the resentment, but if anything reminds you of what someone did that was unfair, the emotion returns in full force. Resentment can motivate many different actions; one does not know what the resentful person will do when an opportunity arises. Unlike annoyance, rage, indignation, sulking, and exasperation, resentment is harbored. If it is not harbored, it is not resentment.

Resentment can fester. When it festers, it takes over your mind, and then it is never out of your mind. You think about it all the time, every day, every hour of the day. You try to think of something else, you read a book, and it invades your thoughts. That is festering resentment.

DALAI LAMA: (Translated.) In Buddhist psychological literature, there is a quite extensive analysis of the different types of pride and conceit, as an emotion, and the different degrees of it. But for more basic emotions like attachment and anger, there is not a complex division of the various degrees. In English, there seems to be a lot of words for these different degrees of anger—“outrage,” “resentment,” “indignation,” and so on. Why are there such resources in the English language for anger?

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